You will have seen my previous posts about Mouse and her school admissions and how currently she is without a school place.
I have to say I knew it would be tough, but I am not sure I knew how tough.
We are going through an appeal with the school and this is hard for so many reasons. The fact that we are applying for an infant place means that there are only limited reasons that you can appeal on. It is made difficult by the law, schools are told how many pupils they can admit, so once the places are filled, there isn’t actually a place to be given, so an appeal is extremely difficult to win/
An appeal is also hard when you like the school and the last thing you want to do is fall out with them. One of the reasons we want Mouse to go there is because we know it would be good for her, so we don’t want to get off on the wrong foot.
Today we received our appeal date and along with it came a realisation of how tough this is going to be. It is a very formal process and really quite intimidating!
On top of our nerves, Mouse has started to ask about when she is going to school, and why her friends are going before her!
Today was really tricky as some of the children from Mouse’s pre-school went for their visit to the reception. Mouse doesn’t understand why she isn’t doing these things too! It didn’t help that Monkey met his new teacher for next year too, meaning everything is about the coming year!
Her and I were chatting the other day and I explained that if she wanted to go to the same school as Monkey then we had to wait on a list until a special place came up, I explained that we could look elsewhere but Monkey would stay at his school. She told me with no doubt that she wants to be with her brother.
The transition period is proving really tough. Mouse is not herself, very clingy and very sad. I am not myself; I feel guilty that she doesn’t have a place, (even though I know we are doing everything we can!), I feel sad she is missing the transition time with her friends and I feel sad that at this time all we can do is wait! We are on the waiting list for the school too, but we are not at the top of it and of course it relies on people moving or changing their minds!
Applying for schools is hard, appeals are tiring, growing up is hard and being a parent is tough!
Do you have any advice on either the appeal or the transition/emotional side?